break-ups.
March 7th 2008 19:54
Break-ups.
Today, one in three marriages ends up in a divorce.
It is not a very glorious statistic and it kind of gives us cold feet in terms of making the big step.
Despite it all we still believe in the big day and in the "forever and ever" fairy tale.
We fall in love, and we fall very hard and it hurts.
Saying this, the wedding planners shouldn’t get too worried, as it seems that despite massive evidence of increased divorce rates, the wedding industry is still doing quite well!
So, back on our feet after a well earned recovery time, the first thing that pops into our head is, sharing some special moments with someone special again.
If some people say the world revolves around money, I would say that if money seems to be a major concern, love is a bigger one, and always was.
We cannot stop hoping for the best partner, this special person that will make us feel happy, safe and grounded. Even if all those feelings shouldn’t depend on someone else’s power it doubles the effect when it comes from our love of interest.
Breaking up with someone is more than just ending a partnership. We loose our best friend and the primary witness of our life at a certain time of it.
We loose someone that probably knows us at the best, …and at the worse too!
Can we force someone to hold onto its promise even if this person can no longer keep it?
Researches revealed that happy marriages argue as much as unhappy ones, the differences are that for the first it is called constructive arguments!
Technically it means that happy marriage's disagreements bring couples together, they work as a team and use their differences to grow together.
Instead of being driven apart by it, “they intersperse their arguments with positive comments and humor to reduce the tension.”
Also said, is every single marriage on earth, could, apart from extreme situations as violence for example, last "until death pull us apart". What it needs, is two people willing to work together, wanting to stay together, appreciating each other's love.
If only we could all do it!
So if u want to make it work, put your ego in your pocket, it is not about proving the other one wrong and making your point but show respect to your other half, listen to it, and remember your willingness to go more than halfway to carry the relationship through difficult times.
Today, one in three marriages ends up in a divorce.
It is not a very glorious statistic and it kind of gives us cold feet in terms of making the big step.
Despite it all we still believe in the big day and in the "forever and ever" fairy tale.
We fall in love, and we fall very hard and it hurts.
Saying this, the wedding planners shouldn’t get too worried, as it seems that despite massive evidence of increased divorce rates, the wedding industry is still doing quite well!
So, back on our feet after a well earned recovery time, the first thing that pops into our head is, sharing some special moments with someone special again.
We cannot stop hoping for the best partner, this special person that will make us feel happy, safe and grounded. Even if all those feelings shouldn’t depend on someone else’s power it doubles the effect when it comes from our love of interest.
Breaking up with someone is more than just ending a partnership. We loose our best friend and the primary witness of our life at a certain time of it.
We loose someone that probably knows us at the best, …and at the worse too!
Can we force someone to hold onto its promise even if this person can no longer keep it?
Researches revealed that happy marriages argue as much as unhappy ones, the differences are that for the first it is called constructive arguments!
Technically it means that happy marriage's disagreements bring couples together, they work as a team and use their differences to grow together.
Instead of being driven apart by it, “they intersperse their arguments with positive comments and humor to reduce the tension.”
If only we could all do it!
So if u want to make it work, put your ego in your pocket, it is not about proving the other one wrong and making your point but show respect to your other half, listen to it, and remember your willingness to go more than halfway to carry the relationship through difficult times.
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Comment by Lara M
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How true it is...iQUOTE]it is not about proving the other one wrong and making your point but show respect to your other half, listen to it, and remember your willingness to go more than halfway to carry the relationship through difficult times.[/QUOTE]
I was gonna write a post on this -- though a slightly different angle -- 'cos a couple friend recently separated...after more than 20 years of marriage! More later...